When is the last time someone made you mad? And how long did you stay mad? A few hours? A day? A month? A few years?
It amazes me how often I speak to individuals who still have a grudge against someone for something they did a long time ago. Yes, it’s okay to express anger when you are properly offended; however, there comes a point in time that you have to let go. For your own wellbeing, you must learn to forgive, and move on.
Someone once told me that holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. I thought this statement was extremely profound. Sometimes, when we are offended, we think that we are hurting the other person by staying mad at them; however, we are really just hurting ourselves. For every minute that we spend angry, we are losing 60 seconds of happiness. And who wants to go through their life angry?
In life, we are in charge of our own happiness. As soon as you allow your happiness to depend on other people and situations, you will be quickly disappointed. Don’t waste any more time being angry at situations from the past. You have too much to accomplish to be spending your time in negativity.
Now, am I saying that you have to be best friends with the person who caused you pain? Absolutely not. It’s okay to cut people off and love them at a distance. What I am saying, though, is to never give another person so much power that you continue to go through life mad.
At the end of the day, anger doesn’t solve anything. However, if you act out in anger, you can completely ruin your life.
Have a great rest of the week!